According to popular belief, the average man is ready at a moment's notice to spring into action - even the slightest of breezes may be enough to set off a sensual response. However, while few men will openly admit it, guys are almost as likely as women to experience periods of low sex drive, where they just can't seem to muster enough interest to get things started - never mind take them to a glorious finish.
Although men tend to judge themselves by their sex drive and ability to be ready at any time, low sex drive does not have much to do with a man's virility; in general, it is related to something else that is going on in his life. Often, addressing the underlying problem and practicing adequate penis care can be effective in overcoming this distressing issue.
What low sex drive might mean
A man who is not feeling the urge quite as often as his partner wants might be experiencing any of the following:
- Too much stress - Men who are stressed out over their jobs, finances, family issues, or relationship problems are generally flooding their own bodies with stress hormones, which have a tendency to counteract the "feel-good" neurotransmitters that produce feelings of desire. Learning to cope with stress in a healthy way can help to alleviate the effects of daily life on the libido.
- An underlying health problem - Men who are affected by health issues such as cardiovascular disease, diabetes, nerve damage, low testosterone, depression, or a host of other problems might not be firing on all cylinders. Identifying and treating these conditions can often help to reverse the problem, putting men back into action.
- Emotional issues - Men who have been raised in a religiously conservative household or who have been shamed about sex related issues may experience feelings of guilt when it comes to sex; this can ultimately affect the libido and lead to problems with erectile function and intimacy. In some cases, a close relationship with a partner can help, but in most instances, counseling may be needed to build a healthy urge for sex.
- Medications and other substances - Certain medications, as well as nicotine, alcohol and recreational substances, can diminish a man's drive, as well as causing problems in terms of erectile function. Quitting smoking, limiting alcohol intake, avoiding illicit substances and changing medications are all indicated in this event.
What reduced libido usually doesn't mean
Men who are experiencing low sex drive can - in most cases - reassure their partners that it is not lack of attraction or infidelity that is causing the drop in interest. Many women tend to feel that their partner's lack of interest means that he is not sexually attracted to her any more; this can lead to relationship problems if not addressed in a positive manner.
Men can let their partners know that the problem is not because of lack of affection or attraction, and couples can often work together to find the real source of the problem.
Penis TLC for increased confidence
Like their female counterparts, men are more likely to feel sexy, attractive and ready for action if they feel good about how they look. In order to feel his best, a man's overall health and physical fitness is important, of course. This doesn't mean he has to be a GQ model - taking care of himself by eating right and getting a moderate degree of regular exercise can create feelings of well-being that are conducive to a healthy sex drive.